Richard Harvey - Psychotherapist, Author and Spiritual Teacher

Richard Harvey

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Richard’s Weekly Quotes

Grasping the Simple Truth

23 October 2017

The Truth is so simple that even when we are presented with it in its starkest form we are unable to grasp it. We are a single drop briefly separated from the ocean, and simultaneously we are the ocean masquerading momentarily as the drop. Just as we, as individual selves, have been concealing our divinity, our divinity has been hiding in our individual selves.

Our Truth

16 October 2017

Over time we will see that our truth lies not in who we think we are, but rather in the transcendence of the thought that we are anyone at all. In the silence of “I,” we experience the birth and death of the universe, and as the universe is All, so am I.

Practicing Forgiveness

09 October 2017

A single act of genuine forgiveness carries tremendous power. To forgive once truly is to forgive all. Practicing forgiveness frees us from repeating experiences of pain and outrage, sorrow and grief, and empowers us to live freely, joyfully, and spontaneously in the world.

Practicing Inner Work

02 October 2017

Practicing inner work has taught us to experience the riches of life again, through honoring our breath, treasuring our bodies, and seeing Nature with fresh, innocent eyes. We appreciate our abilities, talents, virtues, relationships, and abundance.

Searching for The Spiritual

25 September 2017

Searching for the spiritual, we eventually discover that the divine has always been within.

Love

18 September 2017

We believe that we need love, from others, from outside ourselves. We believe we are lacking in love, loved too much, spoiled for love, competing for love, in and out of love. But how different life becomes when we understand that we are love and that the flow of love from the deep source of our own heart is unlimited.

The Rhythm of Inner Work

11 September 2017

The inner journey has its own special rhythm. Our ability to sense and respond to this rhythm prescribes the quality and depth with which our process unfolds.

Centering Ourselves in the Heart

04 September 2017

To change our attitude to ourselves and our lives, we must center ourselves in the heart. By shifting our center from the mind to the heart, we stabilize in unconscious change. Instead of focusing on what we would most like to change, we become aware of our attitude toward it. Instead of mentally distancing ourselves from the hated object, we invite the hated thing in and, by getting to know it, we grow to accept and love it. Nothing can withstand the power of the heart.

Non Attachment

28 August 2017

Authentic spiritual practice refers us back to ourselves. Gurus, teachings, methods, and systems are simply devices. We need not dwell on the road once we have reached our destination. Regardless of which spiritual teaching and method you choose from the many that are available,the most important point is non-attachment. In the end, you must let go completely.

Striving towards Enlightenment

07 August 2017

It is both personally and globally vital that we foster an authentic love for creation, a deep empathy with existence, a strong attitude of tolerance and cooperation toward the outside world, and that we strive toward enlightenment as our life’s goal.

Spiritual Questions

31 July 2017

Spiritual questions are like Zen koans—they arise in every moment. One way out of confusion or lack of focus is to ask, “What is my spiritual question?” The question is always present, so to hear it we must also be present. Our spiritual questions change as we live through the answers. Our lives are the answers to our questions.

Clinging to Impermanence

24 July 2017

Everything is in a process of change. The aesthetic, the pleasurable, the adorable, and the attractive will dissolve and vanish, leaving us only with impressions of their deliciousness, our memories of enjoyment, as well as the pain of their ineluctable absence. Clinging to impermanence leads to sorrow.

Love

17 July 2017

Opening to the abundance of love returns us to our real Selves and the essence of it is giving, rather than acquiring. Love is the deep morality of existence. It needs no acquisition; it is all-pervading and it is what we are: we do not ask for love, we give it.

Receiving Life's Gifts

10 July 2017

Whatever gifts life offers us, we are unable to receive them when we are not present.

Re-Owning Parts of Ourselves

03 July 2017

When we re-own the part of ourselves we have pushed away, we find that what we denied, hated, and tried to separate from—labeling it “myself,” “illness,” or “nuisance”—is precisely what we need to complete us.

Duality or Connectedness?

26 June 2017

If we think we are separate from what happens to us, we see life as a duality because there is always a subject (me) and an object (what happens to me). Alternatively, if we think of ourselves as part of life, then we see unity and connectedness between “me” and events.

Resilience

19 June 2017

As children we may have to put up with a lot, from insensitivity to brutality. But we are amazingly resilient, and we possess a profound spiritual understanding and a deep connection beyond the limits of our individuality.

Leading a Spiritual Life

12 June 2017

Through inner strength, unselfish modesty, kindness to ourself, and clarity, we become conscious of the difficulties we face, allow ourselves to make mistakes, and act responsibly with sincerity and truth to embrace all we are. We should not settle for less than everything—the transformation of the human heart and the courage to demand and bear the responsibility of leading a spiritual life in the world.

Penetrating Confusion

05 June 2017

Sometimes we are confused about our inner states or our outer behavior, and we feel helpless to do anything about them. Practicing awareness is usually all we need do to penetrate the confusion and reach clarity. For inner clarity all that is required is the attention of the heart.

Awareness

29 May 2017

Awareness is the vital practice and beating heart of inner work. Awareness brings our alertness and attention to everything, connects us to our real nature, and in time provides the vehicle through which we witness the process of transforming reality. In the beginning it is expressed in our ability to be present and observe.

The Power of the Heart

22 May 2017

To change our attitude to ourselves and our lives, we must center ourselves in the heart. By shifting our center from the mind to the heart, we stabilize in unconscious change. Instead of focusing on what we would most like to change, we become aware of our attitude toward it. Instead of mentally distancing ourselves from the hated object, we invite the hated thing in and, by getting to know it, we grow to accept and love it. Nothing can withstand the power of the heart.

The Process of Self-Discovery

15 May 2017

The process of self-discovery is a complex journey of self-acknowledgment and personal healing. There is no cure-all moment, only the culmination of a series of moments of revelation, acceptance, and understanding. At the end of the process, when the veils of dishonesty and the mists of illusion are removed, we truly see ourselves in our wholeness.

Impermanence

08 May 2017

Clinging to impermanence leads to sorrow. Old age and death are the mantles over the manifest and changeable events in a human life. Seeking fulfillment in outward phenomena is futile, since our desire for fullness ultimately leads to an ending.

Relationships

01 May 2017

An intimate relationship—partnership or marriage—is one of the most potent catalysts for wholeness and authenticity there is. Relationships can also be the most deathly and least life-enhancing environment for the human spirit. It all depends on honest and open communication, deepening and growing in intimacy, and the courage and willingness to venture into unknown territory together.

Our Flawed Self Image

24 April 2017

Inner work shows us that we are more powerful and more wonderful than we ever imagined. Almost everyone’s self-image is flawed in this respect. We are not little people: we are infinitely more than we hope or fear we can be. When we are able to embrace all we are, our dreams turn out to be closer than we had realized.

The Ego

17 April 2017

While we need an ego as a vehicle for our individual life, we must shed our attachment to it in order to become who we really are. The ego is to our inner world as our body is to the outer—merely a vehicle. The price of identifying with ego is high: conceit, pretense, false pride, and self-importance are all ego tendencies that cause suffering. Ego plays the superior/inferior game of “I am better than you” or “You are better than me.” Ego uses thought to dissect experience and juggles with our center so that we remain separate and alone.

Wanting to Change

10 April 2017

We want to change, but change is beyond our personal will. We cannot force change, but we can create the conditions for change to enter our lives, through openness, surrender, and grace. Change is all around us, always happening; we are in a sea of it. All we need do is create the right conditions and wait.

Inner Chatter

03 April 2017

We define ourselves in constant mental chatter. This inner dialogue maintains us in illusory experiences and constant background anxiety. When we quiet the mind, we experience the great vividness, simplicity, and beauty of life.

Do It Your Own Way

27 March 2017

Inner work may be done on your own, with a friend, or in a group. No precedent has been set to dictate how you should go about it; for everybody it is different, because everybody’s personal journey is unique—as unique as fingerprints, as unique as each of the billions of pebbles on the beach. So don’t let anyone fool you, you should and must do it your way.

Returning to Ourselves

20 March 2017

The inner journey returns us to ourselves, to our original sense of being. We lose ourselves in our attachments to actions, achievements, and outer relationships; we “do” so much physically and mentally that the doer gets lost in the doing and we lose touch with our being.

Go Where Life Is

13 March 2017

Whatever gifts life offers us, we are unable to receive them when we are not present. We must go to where the life is, to where the joyous music is playing. Existence offers no certainty or security, but letting go, being flexible, surrendering, we return to the great flow at the border of timeless space and being: the river has remembered and returned to the ocean.

Becoming Ourselves

06 March 2017

As we explore the legacy of our fathers and mothers, we can see that we must go past them to become ourselves. Understanding and supporting this may be the greatest gift that a parent can give to a child.

Ego

27 February 2017

Ego is an activity of our small self that enables us to be in the world. Ego negotiates between desire and conscience and enables us to be introspective and self-aware. Consequently, ego occupies an ambiguous place in our inner world. The difficulty lies not so much in having an ego, but in attaching ourselves so strongly to the ego and its pursuits that we cannot see the difference between what the ego is doing and who we are.

Personal Empowerment

20 February 2017

Each of us is a unique being with an amazing potential for selfknowledge and deep wisdom. Yet out of attachment to the conditions of our early life, many of us develop a self-image that is inconsequential or damaged, and we become disempowered.

Connecting through the Heart

13 February 2017

Connecting through the heart, we sense that the human and the Divine are really one and that this unity is present in us. When we allow growth to unfold, our personal exploration naturally leads us to this core state of unity and authenticity.

Automatic and Habitual Behaviour

06 February 2017

When we are unaware, our behavior is automatic and habitual. Instead of stopping and reflecting, we become fixed, consistent, and imprisoned by the character we have created. We are attached to a mass of personal habits that support our creation. We imprison ourselves in these limitations and call it suffering.

Refining Our Seeing

30 January 2017

'Seeing life as-it-is' is rather like asking a fish to be aware of water. But when we practice awareness of ourselves, we gradually refine our seeing so that we witness ourselves and others objectively and clearly. In time, we cultivate respect over assumptions, so everything is fresh and new, and in a process of becoming. Like a beginner practicing, like a traveler arriving, we witness the magic of the manifestation in all its vivid beauty.

The Dawn of a New Clarity

23 January 2017

As we reveal our stories to ourselves and others, a new clarity dawns inside us and with it comes a new freedom. As we become familiar with our personal narrative, we see how we cling to it out of fear. We notice things we hadn’t seen before and understand more. We have to work backward to make a new sense of the world. We see how we have masked our feelings of futility through compulsive “doing” and avoided life in all its spontaneous, uncertain creations.

Personal Stories

16 January 2017

On the inner journey we are the adventurer, the explorer, the voyager to inner realms, the traveler who finds joy and fulfillment in discovering the new, moving on, never staying still—a spirit in movement, in search of the spontaneous, and open to whatever comes. But inevitably, experience calcifies into the record of memory, legend, and personal mythology that creates a personal story.

Life Events

09 January 2017

Some life events challenge the limitations of our character and make us look deeper into how we see ourselves and others. Such life events may even take us to the very edge of our resistance to change. They reveal the power of habit and fixedness and directly challenge our ego control and personal narrative.

Attachment to Personality

03 January 2017

We become attached to our personalities. But personality is the creation of thought and experience—the way we make sense of events, our response to conditions, a defense between us and life. In the same way as we sense something constant beneath our changing roles, we recognize the reality of being behind our character and personality. Our small sense of self is expressed through character and personality. For the small self is not the intrinsic creation we believe it to be, but a delusion, merely a costume we wear.

Character

19 December 2016

Character is an inner defense system we create in response to our earliest life experiences. Although it exists primarily in the psyche, it is articulated in our physical structure, facial expressions, and body movements. These demonstrations of character are the nexus of our persona or mask—known collectively as the personality...What we like about ourselves is retained in consciousness; what we don’t like about ourselves is relegated to the unconscious. Our choice is based on lovability and approval, as demonstrated by our parents, teachers, and society.

The Journey from the Shadow to the Flower

12 December 2016

In his poem “Oxbow,” Federico Garcia Lorca describes childhood as a journey from the shadow to the flower—from the disowned defensive self to the essential self. The promise casts the shadow that conceals the flower. The darkness of early experience conceals our greatest riches and the flower of our authentic being. To regain our whole self, we have to possess a strong desire to return to that darkness and liberate ourselves by searching deeply beneath our character and personality.

Healing in the Present

05 December 2016

“Being with” an issue means to reveal and explore it, to own and accept it without judging. The past is simply a projection of the present. We may find useful reference points for the personality through memory, but the solutions to our problems are not in the past, but in the only place where healing can occur—the present. The present is where we live life responsively and vibrantly, without reference to memory or anticipation, beyond the defenses of our character.

The Sense of "Me"

28 November 2016

The sense of “me” is the creation of our child’s mind. We become a subject of our own creation by spinning a web of personal stories. In adult life we continue to spin this tale of self and, like gossip, the more we repeat it, the more it sticks. The defining collection of our individual characteristics and foibles, accruing personal anecdotes, habitual behavior, and emotional patterns are bundled together to create an illusion of substance. We posture as “a somebody".

Knowing Ourselves

21 November 2016

When we ask to know ourselves, we have to find out how we have become other than who we really are. What mental and emotional constrictions do we perform to limit ourselves to “me”? What has made us give up so much for so little? How do we do it and how do we sustain it? Who or what do we do it for?

The Process of Awareness

14 November 2016

Awareness may be thought of as a threefold process of opening, experiencing, and learning. First, we open to everything, without being selective and with a deepening willingness to be present with an inner emptiness. To do this, we have to overcome our resistance and the mind chattering that constantly distracts us. Second, we experience by feeling an increasing sense of presence, releasing our judgments and being in the moment, and not trying to change things. Third, through being with things as they are, we learn from what arises in the present moment. Truth and wisdom are constantly manifesting, ever-present and inviting us to learn.

Attention of the Heart

07 November 2016

Attention of the heart underpins the practice of inner awareness because the heart embraces everything as a unity, while the mind divides and separates, criticizes and judges.

Inner Clarity

31 October 2016

Sometimes we are confused about our inner states or our outer behavior, and we feel helpless to do anything about them. Practicing awareness is usually all we need do to penetrate the confusion and reach clarity. For inner clarity all that is required is the attention of the heart.

Unconscious Preconceptions

24 October 2016

Being aware of others is usually easier than being aware of ourselves. Our activities and thoughts are pervaded by an inner atmosphere. We carry unconscious attitudes that preside over our interactions with the outside world and are revealed in expectations and assumptions. In inner work we may uncover these background assumptions through exploring our unconscious preconceptions.

Retrieving our Awareness

17 October 2016

How do we retrieve our awareness and stop distracting ourselves? First, we ask ourselves where our awareness is focused now habitually, routinely. Notice that mentally, emotionally, and physically we express our concerns and manifest our values in what we do and how we are. We can see what is important to us and what we value simply by observing how we spend our time and what we do with it. What we do, think, and feel reveals our present practice of attention.

Controlling and Suppressing

10 October 2016

We drive the traumas and the suffering of our lives down into the unconscious in our efforts to “survive.” Denial, repression, emotional numbness, unresponsiveness, inhibition, and over-intellectualizing feelings are all ways in which our wounded selves attempt to control and suppress uncomfortable or painful emotions.

A Sense of Presence

03 October 2016

Awareness stems from a sense of presence. When we are aware, we are present, awake; we are in ourselves and “turned on.” But many of us have learned to “turn off.” We have fallen asleep, and lost our vibrancy, our sense of wonder, and our thirst for life. We have become fully automatic, jerking along in our stilted conditioning. Nothing short of a great shock, a tremendous effort, or a peak experience will dislodge us from our state of comfortable numbness.

Inner Work Can Be Lonely

26 September 2016

Inner work is essentially a solo flight, and it can sometimes be lonely. You are the one who must congratulate yourself when you do good work, and you are the one who must be mindful when you are practicing avoidance or denial. Above all, make your inner-work practice a pleasurable and rewarding experience that you will want to develop with enthusiasm and return to with passion.

Crisis

19 September 2016

Crisis is not always personal; it may be spiritual. When it is, the veil between ourselves and others turns out to be surprisingly thin. Sometimes entirely unbidden and with no personal preparation, we are plunged into an awareness of our interconnectedness and experience a spontaneous “awakening.”

The Unique Journey

12 September 2016

Everybody’s personal journey is unique—as unique as fingerprints, as unique as each of the billions of pebbles on the beach. So don’t let anyone fool you, you should and must do it your way.

Deep Dissatisfaction

05 September 2016

When deep dissatisfaction falls upon us, we are faced with a choice. Either we make a conscious decision to go in, or we try to find a way out as soon as we can, at any price. Our friends may try to “help” by cheering us up or advising us to “snap out of it.” But without uncovering the cause of our dissatisfaction, it may continue or return. Snapping out of it usually means that we snap back into it soon afterward. By turning inward to meet our dissatisfaction and explore our inner world, we deepen in our experience, usually with surprising results.

Crises, Defeats and Failure

08 August 2016

To view crises, defeats, and failures as opportunities for change is a wise gift of the soul. Life is composed of negative and positive experiences ranging from the delightful to the excruciating. We never know when our lives will change in such a way that we will never be the same again. To live as if our lives will never change is foolish; to live as if our lives are in a constant process of change is wise.

The Path to Inner Work

01 August 2016

Everyone’s path to inner work is unique, but broadly speaking there are two ways—curiosity and desperation, the way of the dilettante and the way of despair. The desperate seeker comes out of crisis; the curious seeker comes out of dissatisfaction. Both represent some shattering of our picture of how things are, some form of disenchantment, disappointment, or disillusionment. The difference is in how we come to inner work: dissatisfaction is like distant rumbling thunder; crisis is like a bolt of lightning.

The Return to Ourselves

25 July 2016

The inner journey returns us to ourselves, to our original sense of being. We lose ourselves in our attachments to actions, achievements, and outer relationships; we “do” so much physically and mentally that the doer gets lost in the doing and we lose touch with our being.

Personality and the Soul

18 July 2016

In inner work we explore our personality in all its aspects until the chinks—those little gaps between the tightly packed content of personality and personal drama—appear, and light enters into the darkness through the crack in the fabric of our façades. Personality is a thin layer around the soul. It is how we appear, to ourselves and others—not who we are.

Inner Work as Metamorphosis

11 July 2016

On one level, inner work is an examination of the instability of life: how things manifest and dissolve in a seemingly endless state of fluctuation. Our emotions create endless scenarios of desire, of pleasure and pain. On another level, inner work is like polishing coal until it turns into a diamond—a metamorphosis of substances that were always within.

Unexpressed Feelings

04 July 2016

Unexpressed feelings create a psychic cage around our spirit. We are unable to release ourselves until we have cried, raged, felt pain and sadness. Releasing negative emotions allows feeling to flow within us and takes us to deeper levels of experience and fulfillment. When we integrate these experiences in the psyche, we can begin to live with newfound freedom and expansion, as if a great weight has been lifted off of us.

One of the Deep Lessons of Inner Work

27 June 2016

Most of us come to inner work wanting to add to ourselves—to make things better, to be happier or more fulfilled. We would rather be happy than discover what has made us unhappy...One of the deep lessons of inner work is that we have to lessen ourselves to find ourselves.

The Inner Journey Spirals

20 June 2016

The inner journey spirals around our true Self. Each turn of the spiral brings us closer to it. In time we arrive at the border of timeless space and being. Then we need journey no more, because we have become one with ourself; we have awakened. As the ancient Indian rishis would say, the river has remembered and returned to the ocean.

Lessening and Relinquishing

13 June 2016

One of the deep lessons of inner work is that we have to lessen ourselves to find ourselves. We have to relinquish all that is false in us to reveal our real Self.

Thinking We Know Ourselves

06 June 2016

As our inner journey continues, we pass through the layers of appearance to subconscious layers of deception and avoidance. We think we know ourselves, but we are hidden beneath defenses and resistance. We may imagine that we are open to self-discovery, while we are really in a fog of conflicts, apologies, justifications, and unconscious urges. When challenged, we may not know who we are.

Discovering the Ghosts and Dark Shapes

30 May 2016

Often we are trapped in reaction to our early life circumstances—our family, how we were treated, who we have become. We may suffer from guilt, shame, negative judgements, and self-criticism, which result in pain, frustration, denial, and withdrawal. We practice inner work to discover the ghosts and dark shapes in our unconscious, to feel our forbidden needs and desires, our deep fears, and the awe-inspiring rage and sadness of our existence.

A Terrific Wrestling Match

23 May 2016

A terrific wrestling match goes on between the self that deeply desires to heal and change and the self that wishes to be healed but unchanged. But successful self-exploration heals through inner changes that require our surrender to loss: the release of attachment and the shedding of emotional patterns.

Looking for Completion

16 May 2016

The idea of completing ourselves drives us unconsciously in everything we do. Those of us who make the commitment to inner work are looking for completion, too. Something gives us the courage to take up self-reflection and attempt to know ourselves intimately and discover who we really are. Some of us have an implicit trust that the way will be revealed; others of us come with openness and faith, or a deep response to the urge to grow. Each of us has suffered a crack in the fabric that protects us from the world.

How Things Are

25 April 2016

How things are is tricky to experience. We habitually bring our prejudices and assumptions to bear on direct experience and cease to be aware. The goal of self-discovery is to become aware of who we are and to truly experience the world as it is. We get there through exploring our inner world.

A Deeper Transformation

18 April 2016

Everyone who looks within wants, consciously or unconsciously, to change. Change may be brought about by effort, through an act of will, but that kind of change is relatively superficial because it reverts when the will weakens. A deeper transformation comes about when we tap into the change that flows through all of existence and learn to surrender to it through the deep acceptance of how things are.

Wisdom and Illumination in Modern Times

11 April 2016

Enlightenment and the spiritual are not confined by form, as much as we tend to dress them in certain clothes to give the appearance of holiness and serenity. Who says that we cannot be neurotic and spiritual at the same time? One is a symptom of our humanness, the other of our divinity.

Beyond Our Normal Limitations

04 April 2016

In times of trauma—depression, anxiety, sorrow, confusion, and despair—our personalities are not enough. We are challenged to go beyond our normal limitations. We are forced to look inward, to journey to a deeper reality. Those of us who do not experience trauma or crisis, but nonetheless want to grow, may also choose to journey inward.

The Unprecedented Ordeal of Unwinding Character

28 March 2016

Spiritual attainment has been presented directly and simplistically in the past. The great profundity of such a simple statement as be as you are, for example, still carries weight. But today ego forces are so complex and powerful, and human beings are so extraordinarily conflicted and multilayered, that we are required to persist in an ordeal of unwinding character that has no precedent in human history.

Inner Work

21 March 2016

No one can do your inner work but you. It is arguably the most important, necessary, and indispensable activity of your life. Through inner work you can awaken and discover yourself, your life purpose, and your path to Self-realization.

The Flowering of a Human Life

14 March 2016

The flowering of a human life leads to untold wonders and joys too intense and precious to describe.

Establishing a Spiritual Life

07 March 2016

Establishing a spiritual life in the world today is fraught with difficulties. But spiritual life has always thrived on difficult circumstances and tests.

Your Essential Self

29 February 2016

Spiritual inner work is now a crucial activity for the modern world. Your Essential Self clearly connects personality and ego to true nature and enlightenment. It acts as a map for the inner journey and guides you through the stages of the process for inner work, discovering authenticity, and Self-realization.

The Inner Void

22 February 2016

Human beings mostly live at a fraction of their full potential. Try as we might, money, relationships, possessions, and prestige cannot fill the inner void. Potential and fulfillment, like satisfaction and joy, must be authentic and real. In fact, they must be inner.

Awakening to Your Essential Self

15 February 2016

Awakening to your essential self is an idea that has been around since human history began. It can be found in most or all religious and spiritual traditions, as well as modern New Age thinking. Simply put, it’s the idea that human birth is a paradoxical experience. On the one hand we grow, mature, and adapt to become part of the human world; on the other, through the indoctrination of conditioning, we forget where we have come from and who or what we really are. So being born is awakening into this world, but falling asleep to a deeper reality.

The Three Primary Energy Centres

08 February 2016

The human organism tends to be partial. It engages in one of three basic levels—head, heart, and pelvis—mind, heart, and will. The mind or spiritual vision or higher intuitive faculty yield understanding, insight, breakthrough, and acceptance. The heart allows you to merge and unify and become one with the teachings of truth from where love, compassion, and authenticity flow. And the will, which is extremely important to you at this time, causes you to act, make your move, and bring your commitment to discipline, based on understanding.

The Awakening of the Heart Nature

01 February 2016

The life of the heart is a rupture, a shattering of illusion, and an initiation into truth. This characterizes the life of the heart, the mind of non-discrimination, of total forgiveness, and loving acceptance, the flowering of self-nature and the surrender of compassion and authenticity—the awakening of the heart-nature.

The True Self

25 January 2016

To remember the true Self you must forget the “I.” This transcendental experience is the dawning of truth, but it can transport you to the reality that no separation exists. There are truly no individuals.

To Truly Live

18 January 2016

To live—to truly live—there is really only one fear to overcome. Only one fear because it is the one which comprises all the others. That is the fear of death. Within this mighty fear is our denial of life, our avoidance of life, our lack of courage in life, and ultimately our fear of life.

The Scapegoat

11 January 2016

Despite our sophistication, modern humanity is primitive in its projections. The scapegoat bears our adulation, our ecstasy, and our joy, then our disappointment, our disillusionment, and finally our blaming, or escape from blaming and responsibility, in its inevitable sacrifice and destruction, which symbolically vindicates us through its demise. So, we still want to blame, seek revenge, and release our self-hate onto someone and sometimes anyone will do.

Developing Our Spiritual Understanding

04 January 2016

We desperately need to understand spiritual, transcendental, egocentric points of view, and divine reality and extend our understanding to deeper teachings, progressive practices, and sacred cultural change that reflect profound truths and allow people to follow spiritual practices that are not merely rooted in ancient thought and metaphysics because we are too lazy or uninspired to develop our spiritual understanding.

The Ground of Being

28 December 2015

The ancient rishis taught that the ground of being preceded the arising of all separate, separative, apparent phenomena. This means that in meditation and other consciousness practices we may potentially return to a blessed contentment of profound inner peace when we begin at this pivotal experience and understand this ancient teaching.

Practicing Awareness

21 December 2015

As we practice awareness we fail repeatedly while the judging mind exerts its enormous power. However we are quietly challenging judgment and so we develop our acceptance of circumstances just as they are, which opens the way to accepting life and seeing the world just as it is and in time to embracing reality itself.

Spectacular Discoveries

14 December 2015

The inner journey begins with the practice of awareness, as we regard the world and ourselves anew. This new awareness leads us to spectacular discoveries.

The Call

07 December 2015

For some of us there is dissatisfaction with ordinary life, with consensus existence. We see through it, because it does not satisfy us. This may seem like a disadvantage in the conventional world but in the inner world it is the herald, the beckoning, or what is often referred to as “the call.” The call may be a gnawing dissatisfaction or an extreme crisis or a mixture of both.

The Hope for Humanity

30 November 2015

Inner work is the hope for humanity. If it becomes a universal pursuit, the value of self-knowledge will be understood to be without substitute. The work of inner ecology, balance, insight, and clarity will light the way to environmental, global, international, sociological, psychological and of course spiritual balance through tolerance, co-operation and peace.

The Spiritual Teacher is Yourself

23 November 2015

The spiritual teacher is yourself or as it has traditionally been put he is the mirror in which you see yourself as you are, as you would like to be, human and divine, possibility and actuality, imperfections and perfections, relative and absolute, in all your great complexity. Nothing is spared you as you look into this mirror, particularly your ambivalence. Your self-importance reflexes with your lack of self-worth as your self-inflation reflects your self-perceived insignificance.

Our Essential Nature

16 November 2015

Human beings are essentially spiritual in nature. Our mental, physical, emotional, energetic forms are given life by the spirit. We create, and inhabit our world through our consciousness.

The Real World

09 November 2015

This is the start of every inner journey—the intuition that there is something more. It is the beginning of motivation, of transcendence, and it plants the seeds of faith. We reach out to clouds, call to rainbows, and speak with the creatures of the sea. We give ourselves up to the waves, fly in the wind, and are borne on the warm air currents. We leave a world of our own creation and take birth in the Real world, the world of love and truth, compassion and wisdom, peace and eternity.

Living the Human Life

02 November 2015

We can live the human life, the fully human life, the one in which we allow the divine to manifest through our humanness—not in spite of our humanness—and live within the contradictions and paradoxes that bring us to the very edge of experience, the precipice of the sensible world, the reality and expression of eternity in the field of space and time, as Gandhiji spoke for and taught and lived.

Self Obsession

19 October 2015

Ironically your greatest spiritual asset is what appears to be your greatest obstacle: your obsession with yourself. Today we live in the age of individualism... Obsessed as we are with ourselves, addicted as we are to our own self-importance, self-indulgence, and self-aggrandizement, we have the means, the power, and the strength in our possession... If we can only harness the power of obsession and addiction, and redirect it toward the Divine in no time at all we would be free!

Your Spiritual Commitment

12 October 2015

Your spiritual practice, your sacred life should not be a preference, a fetish, an anachronistic attachment to a romanticized cult figure or a fixation on some beliefs, merely a “spiritual” extension of your ego. Your spiritual-sacred practice should be teeming with life, vibrancy, health, energetic and enthusiastic, living and breathing. There are, like all things, ways to get there and ways to foul up, procrastinate, stall and backslide.

Divine Commitment

05 October 2015

You may be a student, you may be a disciple, you may be a spiritual teacher, or you may be a devotee. Your fulfillment lies in the knowledge that what you are is yourself. Your divine commitment is the spiritual expression of yourself in this incarnation.

The Devotee

28 September 2015

The devotee is not bound, for she has used the bindings to free herself, to liberate herself from suffering, to rise above it, through awareness, love, devotion, and finally surrender to the presence of the Divine in this life, in the everyday life. So everything is a meditation, a celebration, a dedication, a consecration to God, to Love, to Divinity. For the devotee, there's nothing else, because everything is God, Love, Divine.

Student? Disciple? Devotee?

21 September 2015

The student of spirituality can wait, learn, practice, try things out, fail and try again, fail and try again. The disciple of spirituality can allow himself or herself to be led repeatedly, following, surrendering, loving, hoping, falling into despair, but returning and returning. But the devotee! The devotee has no time, no motivation, no hope, no wishes, no intention, nothing to attain, not even the exalted goal of enlightenment, for the devotee is absolutely free in every moment.

Eternity in Time

14 September 2015

Your life is but an instant, a moment, a fleck of dust already blowing away, a momentary shard of light, a droplet temporarily separated from the waterfall to which it is returning. When we were young, we thought we had all the time in the world. When we “grew up,” we still wished we had all the time in the world. As we get older, we forget that we ever thought it, as we confront the end of time and the beginning of eternity. But eternity is in each moment, if we only understand which way to turn, which way to be led, and how to live.

Bound to Make Life Sacred

07 September 2015

We are bound to life in order to make it sacred. We have an obligation to make life sacred, to accept the yoke, to go through it again and again, until we have achieved sacred union with the divine... and in that lies your absolute freedom, your liberation and Self-realization, your union with Reality itself.

Practicing Spirituality

31 August 2015

It is not enough to have spiritual tendencies; you must apply yourself, make life decisions, adhere to your inner commitment, persist, practice—above all practice spiritually.

Being Bound and Unconscious

24 August 2015

Experience belongs to the realms of space and time in the relative world: the world of day and night, right and wrong, good and evil. It is the junior school of humanity where people need and judge, criticize and expect, hate and seek, and lie and conceal, because they are basically ashamed of their humanity, because they have not seen through this world of appearances. Because they are bound and unconscious, their experiences in this world are not filled with light.

Devotion

17 August 2015

Devotion is the path of love taken to the nth degree, to the extreme. All things are the Beloved who is a gateway, a doorway into divine love through devotion. Everything begins and ends with love.

Absolute Freedom

10 August 2015

There is a freedom that is absolute: a freedom that is unassailable, that is inarguable, that pertains to no opposite whatsoever, a freedom that is your natural right, your birthright, the natural state of a full and whole, developed and natural human being. This freedom cannot be taken away, cannot be removed, adapted, tainted, or touched by anyone else and it is yours for the taking

Unconscious Manipulation

03 August 2015

Although it is commonplace to the point of being ubiquitous, meeting another and manipulating and dominating him or her with your (usually unconscious) behavior is an idea that we have a lot of resistance to until we look and see it all clearly.

Freedom

27 July 2015

Today in the modern world we have freedom. But do we? Are people free? If they are not, how come they are not? What does it mean to be truly free? Freedom itself seems to be elusive. In fact we are hardy free at all. In even the simplest, most straightforward of ways we are less than free, completely un-free, and totally unconscious of it.

The Price of the Ego

20 July 2015

The ego, or false self, seeks to reinforce and preserve itself at any cost. And that cost is your life essence, your core reality, bliss, and joy. The price is your life, yet unconsciously you suffer, without understanding that it is you yourself who enslaves you to the pattern of suffering.

A Modern Human Dilemma

13 July 2015

In our self-contraction—which is another term for our ego, or false self—we are doomed inevitably to suffer from a self-inflicted restlessness.

Real Spirituality

06 July 2015

Real spirituality has absolutely nothing to do with morality, society, and relationships as you may know them, or happiness as you habitually think of it. Peace, fulfillment, satisfaction, or human experience in every way is dwarfed by the genuinely spiritual.

The Predicament of the Modern Era

29 June 2015

At the very heart of my work is a spiritual way that addresses the predicament of the modern era. This predicament, as I see it, is rather similar to the idea of the kaliyuga. This is a term from Hindu cosmology that denotes the darkening of the light, the time of least spirituality, morality, and transcendence. By facing the ego which has been highly developed and become extremely complex as the symbol of self-identification, separation, and division in the inner individual life and the outer collective world, we can prepare the ground for the revolution of individual and collective consciousness.

A Unique Inner Journey

22 June 2015

Creating permanent positive change and living happily in the present moment are attainable goals. Your inner wisdom can be awakened, but only a unique inner journey will lead you to it.

Love Relationships

15 June 2015

Alongside inner work, therapy and meditation, primary love relationships are the most powerful tool for awakening there is.

Dark Times

08 June 2015

Not knowing ourselves, not knowing the other, unaware of the world about us, we do not experience Reality. In these dark times humanity is essentially ignorant, unaware, and unconscious.

Where Infinity Meets Time and Space

01 June 2015

Paradox and contradiction are omens of the spiritual realms; they appear on the border where infinity meets time and space.

Each Moment

25 May 2015

Each moment of your life can be an opportunity, an invitation to expand, to grow, enlighten, and transcend the world of appearances, to offer your humanness up to the Divine.

Discover, Fulfill, Empower

18 May 2015

Discover the path of self-understanding, growth, and healing. Fulfill your divine potential. Empower yourself to live with authenticity and compassion.

Awakening

11 May 2015

Awakening to your essential self is an idea that has been around since human history began. It can be found in most or all religious and spiritual traditions, as well as modern New Age thinking. It is the idea that human birth is a paradox. On the one hand we grow, mature, and adapt to the human world. On the other hand, through the indoctrination of conditioning, we forget where we have come from and who or what we really are. So being born is waking into this world, but falling asleep to a deeper reality.

Spiritual or Human?

04 May 2015

Many speak of spirituality as a confection, love as sentiment, and deeply human and emotional states are confused with the spiritual and the transcendent. The difference is as heaven and earth.

Spiritual Search

27 April 2015

To rise to the challenges of the first three seven-year cycles of life brings you to a spiritual gate; the beginning of the prelude to the subtle energy conditions that enables and empowers the spiritual search.

Heart Mind

20 April 2015

The spiritual mind, the heart-mind, feels the world, opens to the world, lives gratefully in the great Mystery, and knows that you cannot truly explain or know anything at all.

Heart Service

13 April 2015

Until it is brought into the service of the heart, the mind is always defeated.

Inconsistent Attention

06 April 2015

Truth doesn’t come and go; it is only the quality of our attention that is inconsistent.

Fantasy

30 March 2015

When “Reality” does not give us what we desire, we create a fantasy to meet our inner needs.

Passing by Truth

23 March 2015

To pass by the Truth, rather than inhabit Reality in which Truth resides, is an unnecessary deprivation.

Liberation

16 March 2015

The end of awareness is liberation.

Find Yourself

09 March 2015

One of the deep lessons of inner work is that we have to lessen ourselves to find ourselves.

That

02 March 2015

Reality is Unity, Oneness. All is Consciousness alone and you are That.

Dying

23 February 2015

All that arises attains fulfillment beyond itself. That means every thing must die.

Divinely-lit

16 February 2015

Live your life as a blessing, not just as a thought of a blessing, but a feeling, a certainty, in you that you are blessed. Then you will feel fortunate. Then you will be divinely-lit.

Time and Eternity

09 February 2015

Do not look for time in eternity, look for eternity in time.

True Nature and Eternity

02 February 2015

Learn to recognize and exhibit your true nature without compromise or watering down. Learn to sink into eternity in time.

The Travail to Wholeness

26 January 2015

We are not here to satisfy our small selves, we are here to heal the world of its ills, its pain, its suffering. Then through a process of birth, through the ordeal of wholeness, a new era of abundance will be born.

Open to the Sacred

19 January 2015

In this present era of cheapening, materialism, of violation and disregard for the truly spiritual, more than ever before, we need to open our ears and hearts to the sacred.

A Real Meeting

12 January 2015

Everyone needs someone in their life whom they can trust enough to open up to and reveal themselves… and be received, acknowledged, recognized, and validated: a real meeting beyond fear.

Repetition

29 December 2014

Immaturity means the repetition of automatically performing unconscious patterns from the past.

Radical Disturbance

15 December 2014

True spiritual teaching is a physical, emotional and mental revolution, an upheaval, an earthquake, a radical disturbance to the complacent organization of our small sense of self.

A Shock

08 December 2014

Spiritual awakening results from a shock which disturbs our usual points of reference.

Fading Tears

01 December 2014

Through all our human gropings to understand, learning to fail, learning to succeed, finally we see it’s all tears fading and drying on the face of God.

Pause

24 November 2014

Let us pause for a moment… breathe… and be grateful.

Spiritual Cage

17 November 2014

Like lies, unexpressed feelings create a psychic cage around the spirit.

Universal Essence

10 November 2014

In time these words will lapse into the great silence. All that we say and do and speak will echo faintly, resound, and merge with the universal essence from which it came.

The Space Between

03 November 2014

Everything appears out of the matrix of emptiness, out of the space between the in and the out breaths.

Enlightenment

27 October 2014

No one has ever become enlightened yet all is enlightenment.

No Seeking Necessary

20 October 2014

There is a crossing to make… but you seek for the way to the other side when there’s really no seeking necessary… the means are before you, before your very eyes. Just get in the boat!

What I Know and What I Don't

13 October 2014

What I have learnt is always complemented by my unknowing. What I know is cradled in the expansive matrix of what I do not know.

One Consciousness

06 October 2014

All beings participate in the One Consciousness.

Halt Seeking

29 September 2014

Practicing awareness, seeing "what is", is a powerful experience that halts seeking.

Growing Acceptance

15 September 2014

Out of stillness awareness will arise and acceptance will grow.

The Answer to the Question of Death

08 September 2014

My life is the answer to the question of death. I sought the undying, the eternal in many shapes and forms. My emphasis was on the seeker and the search. My life used to take me further away from the deathless.

Romantic Myth

01 September 2014

We are struggling to transcend a romantic myth that is about two thousand years old and anachronistic. We must either transcend this myth or transform it. I would prefer an entirely new mythology to guide humanity in the times ahead. These times will either be extraordinarily dark or they will be the sign that we are emerging at last from the end of the Kaliyuga. These end times—the Kaliyuga—are crucial because depending on which way humanity goes, what decisions are made collectively, and what values are followed, almost anything can happen.

Truth or Lies?

25 August 2014

Our lives hinge on a single choice. Be loyal to the lie or be loyal to the truth. Once you have made your decision the choice is self-perpetuating. This means that lies lead to falsehoods lead to more lies and eventually you feel and become lost. Truth leads to deeper truth and wisdom and empowerment and skill in life and eventually you become clear. Which will you choose?

Authentic Tones of Love

18 August 2014

When the process of opening the heart, learning to feel and love again, becoming vulnerable and relating in intimacy is genuinely happening, the first emotions to “spill out” are negative ones. Anger, hate, resentment, frustration, hurt, pain, bitterness are all the toxic elements that need to be released from the heart before it is possible to feel the deeper, subtler, more authentic tones of love.

Whole-Body Listening

11 August 2014

Listen to the world from an inner place of stillness. Center yourself in the heart and trust that your mental understanding will be balanced by your feeling. Listen with your whole body, not just the mind. Sitting or standing relaxed and loose, allow your body to move or sway sometimes and respond physically and spontaneously, both inwardly and outwardly. Let your body respond emotionally and energetically.

Heaven and Earth

04 August 2014

Our heads are in the heavens; our feet are on the ground. We are creatures of roots and wings.

Sublime Identification

28 July 2014

The soul inside every person is the means to experience, to reach to the earth, to savor life, to experience sublime identification through our true nature in time, if we tread the path of wholeness to the end.

Global Crisis

21 July 2014

Inner work must become common-place, routine, and universal among people, rather than merely the concern of a relative few. Evolving human consciousness must become the prevailing focus for humanity if we are to avert the impending spiritual, ecological, heart-breakingly human, and global crisis of the 21st century.

Today

14 July 2014

Today human beings have grown away from their true nature, from their essential selves. Inner work is needed to bring us back to ourselves, to the naturalness that has been lost, to our inner wisdom, and to our true purpose.

Creating Conditions for Change

07 July 2014

We cannot force change any more than we make a flower grow or change another person’s mind for them, but we can create the conditions for change to enter our lives, through openness, surrender and grace.

Blessed Contentment

30 June 2014

In meditation and other consciousness practices we may potentially return to the blessed contentment of profound inner peace.

Burning in the Crucible

23 June 2014

The most beneficial act you can offer to the most vulnerable is the powerful act of entering the crucible of awakening and burning within it.

True Healing

16 June 2014

When we realize our interconnectedness with all beings and with all of life, we see that healing—true healing—compels us to care, without prejudice.

The Hope

09 June 2014

Inner work is the hope for humanity.

The Spiritual Teacher is Yourself

02 June 2014

The spiritual teacher is yourself or as it has traditionally been put he or she is the mirror in which you see yourself as you are, as you would like to be, human and divine, possibility and actuality, imperfections and perfections, relative and absolute, in all your great complexity… and simplicity.

The End of Hope

26 May 2014

The seeker waits in despair, disillusionment, and emptiness, without expectation, without anything to hold onto, with nothing. He cries out in silence, into a non-receptive space… and the sound merely echoes back at him. Some of you have been here. You will recognize this place, this endlessness, this emptiness, this waste land at the end of hope. It is here that the spiritual teacher appears.

The Real World

19 May 2014

Every inner journey starts with the intuition that there is something more, that the world you are in is not the real world.

Fully Human Life

12 May 2014

Can we live the human life, the fully human life, the one in which we allow the divine to manifest through our humanness?

The Power of Obsession

05 May 2014

This age of the individual is far from straightforward. Obsessed as we are with ourselves, addicted as we are to our own self-importance, self-indulgence, and self-aggrandizement, we have the means, the power, and the strength in our possession. These are contained in our obsession and addiction to ourself. If we can only harness the power of obsession and addiction, and redirect it toward the Divine.

The Age of Individualism

28 April 2014

Ironically your greatest spiritual asset is what appears to be your greatest obstacle: your obsession with yourself. Today we live in the age of individualism.

Spiritual Vision

22 April 2014

Maintain a spiritual vision that is authentic, deep and doesn’t bow to populism or over-concern to make spirituality palatable, that retains its integrity, genuineness, and mystery, that can genuinely lead to personal freedom and spiritual liberation.

Spiritual Devotion

14 April 2014

Spiritual devotion is spontaneous and unexpected. Probably the nearest thing to it in worldly life is falling in love.

Immaturity

07 April 2014

Immaturity is repetition, the automatic performance of unconscious emotional-behavioral patterns sourced from early life.

Maturity

31 March 2014

The very first step in maturity is ascending to the heart.

The Three Stages of Awakening: a Revolutionary New Paradigm

24 March 2014

In first-stage awakening we transcend dependency and conditioned fears through resolving our childhood and adolescent dilemmas. In second-stage awakening we face an individual and collective challenge, as we rise into the heart and learn how to truly love. We address the experience of otherness, of separation, identity, and division which is inherent in the life of the mind, the distinctive western approach to existence that has become almost global today. The second stage of awakening is the realization that no separation truly exists. In the third stage of awakening the task is to deepen awareness and transform remaining personal concerns into devotion and continuous spiritual practice by surrender and spontaneity, selflessness and compassion.

Weeping for the Divine

17 March 2014

The words appear out of the matrix of emptiness, out of the space between the in and the out breaths. In time these words will lapse into the great silence of mouna and all that we say and do and speak here will be a fading part of the universe. Like sand grains or notes of music, like autumn leaves or snowflakes, they will have been and then they will not have been. Let us pause for a moment. Are they merely human foibles, human failings, human gropings to understand? Or are they perhaps, fading, drying on the face now tears—the tears we shed weeping for the Divine?

Opening our Hearts to the Sacred

10 March 2014

In this present era of cheapening, materialism, of violation and disregard for the truly spiritual, more than ever before, we need to open our ears and hearts to the sacred.

Many Speak of...

03 March 2014

Many speak of spirituality as a confection, love as sentiment, and deeply human and emotional states are confused with the spiritual and the transcendent.

Stuck

24 February 2014

Modern humanity is stuck in the unresolved issues of early years.

"Reality"

17 February 2014

“Reality” has not given us what we desire, so, resourceful as ever, we have created an outward fantasy to meet our inner needs.

A Spiritual Gate

10 February 2014

To go through and rise to the challenges of the first three seven-year cycles of life brings you to a spiritual gate; the beginning of the prelude to the subtle energy conditions that enables and empowers the spiritual search.

Healing and Listening

03 February 2014

Between us is a great sacrificial fire as we engage in a ritual which is as old as human communication, as old as life itself.

The First Seven Years of Life

27 January 2014

Identity is key in the first seven years of life, as are the formative experiences of dependency, rejection, betrayal, and punishment through which we model our identity.

The Beginning of Freedom

20 January 2014

The end of attention is the beginning of freedom itself.

Consciousness

13 January 2014

This fundamental truth should be understood by all serious spiritual seekers: Reality is Unity, Oneness. All is Consciousness alone…

Your Divinity

06 January 2014

What right do we have to withhold our divinity from existence?

The Divine Human

30 December 2013

Let us dedicate our inner work practice to a theme that draws Christian, pagan, and ancient religions, east and west, north and south, together into one all-consuming tremendous message—the ecumenical communication, the message that was ignored, though delivered so brightly by Swami Vivekananda 100 years ago in the Parliament of Religions in Chicago. That theme is the practice of devotion to a God man, a divine human who could offer salvation to humankind and to the world; a child, a human born from a mortal woman who realized his or her divine nature and manifests Truth.

Father Christmas, God and Daddy

23 December 2013

Father Christmas and God the Father are merely extrapolated images of Daddy, our biological father, who is himself the mythological figure of our childhood.

Fulfillment

16 December 2013

Whether it is the flower, or music, the seed, the wave or the river all things reach their fulfillment beyond themselves.

Becoming Wise

09 December 2013

There is no such thing as becoming wise through knowledge, because knowledge is not inherently wise. It is inherently information only.

No Words

02 December 2013

There are no words to describe the true nature of a human being.

Realize Yourself

25 November 2013

You are capable of self-reflection through the practice of awareness and by means of awareness you may realize yourself.

Divinely Lit

18 November 2013

Live your life as a blessing, not just as a thought of a blessing, but feeling in you blessed, fortunate, divinely lit.

The Spirituality Game

11 November 2013

Spirituality is not some game of trying to find the “right” way and then applying it indiscriminately to everyone.

No More Need

04 November 2013

When you have arrived you have no more need of the road.

Simply Unnecessary

28 October 2013

To pass by the truth, rather than inhabit reality seems to me to be a travesty, a tragedy, an unnecessary deprivation.

Touch the Mystery

21 October 2013

Through the soul we are in touch with irrational forces of great depth and mystery.

What is the Soul?

14 October 2013

The soul inside every person is the means to experience, to reach to the earth, to savor life, to experience sublime identification through our true nature in time, if we tread the path of wholeness to the end.

Knowledge and Wisdom

07 October 2013

Spirituality is less a matter of knowledge, more a matter of wisdom, and knowledge is not wisdom.

The Border

30 September 2013

Paradox is the border where infinity meets time and space.

Each Moment

23 September 2013

Each moment of your life can be an opportunity, an invitation to expand, to grow, enlighten, and transcend the world of appearances, to offer your humanness up to the Divine.

Choice

16 September 2013

Begin by appreciating the gate, the life you have been given, and the opportunity it presents you with, and ask profoundly: now what would I like to do with this?

Generous

10 September 2013

You must be generous enough to receive generously, because receiving, as well as giving, is a generous act.

Receiving

03 September 2013

Learn to receive other’s gifts. Be very present in your receiving. Don’t be quick to think how you should respond. Simply be in the moment, and receive the gift.

Love in Action

19 August 2013

Awareness is love in action and the highest form of love is devotion.

Uninteresting Mind

12 August 2013

The mind tries to interest you in the same old small number of themes and narratives, the same old worries, fears, and hates.

Transformation

05 August 2013

You have adopted a brilliant disguise—it is your “me-ness,” your small self, and this must be surrendered to the unconscious forces of the Divine for transformation.

Your Life

29 July 2013

Everyone has a capacity, a potential, a depth of expansion to fulfill in this life.

How to Live

22 July 2013

Eternity is in each moment, if we only understand which way to turn, which way to be led, and how to live.

One with Reality

15 July 2013

We are bound to life in order to become enlightened and in that lies your absolute freedom, your liberation and Self-realization, your union with Reality itself.

Necessity of Practice

08 July 2013

It is not enough to have spiritual tendencies; you must apply yourself, make life decisions, adhere to your inner commitment, persist, practice—above all practice spiritually.

Absolute Freedom

01 July 2013

Absolute freedom is within. It cannot be taken away.

What We Love

24 June 2013

We always attend to that which we love.

You Must Be Brave

17 June 2013

You must be brave if you want to be free, because it takes great courage to be free, liberated, and not require anyone’s approval.

A Revolution in Consciousness

10 June 2013

By facing the ego which has been highly developed and become extremely complex as the symbol of self-identification, separation, and division in the inner individual life and the outer collective world, we can prepare the ground for the revolution of individual and collective consciousness.

Inner Method

03 June 2013

The sequence is this – openness, surrender and grace.

Conditions for Change

27 May 2013

We cannot force change, but we can create the conditions for change to enter our lives, through openness, surrender and grace.

The Two Fears

20 May 2013

Our lives lurch between two poles of insecurity: the fear of not getting what we want and the fear of getting what we want.

Desire

13 May 2013

Desire maintains a deceitful dynamic. It is like a train on an endless track that refuels without losing momentum or stopping and never reaches its destination.

How You Receive

06 May 2013

The way we receive depends on how strongly we are attached to our ego. The looser the hold, the easier it is for us to receive; the tighter the hold, the harder it is for us to receive.

A Great Threshold

29 April 2013

You stand on a great threshold, a gulf is between you and the truth, there can be no escape, you can only return to yourself and to the source of your being-ness, soul, and spirit.

No Object to Love

22 April 2013

Love can have no object other than itself. Just as love simply is, we want to be loved for simply being and nothing else will satisfy us.

Heart and Being

15 April 2013

Inner transformation establishes us in a new center of being and heart.

Richest Gift

08 April 2013

Whatever we like least about our self conceals our richest gift.

Enter the Slipstream

01 April 2013

When we shed our historical conditioning and enter into the slipstream of the eternal, personal transformation is inevitable.

Awareness, Transformation, Realization

25 March 2013

The order of awakening is awareness, transformation, realization. Today we are having a hard time meeting the first of these—awareness. Because it seems increasingly hard in a relatively superficial, increasingly amoral, fickle and speed-driven culture to recognize, honor or even value such things as these.

The Transformed Human

18 March 2013

Compassion is the source of all action in the transformed human being.

Inner Sacredness

11 March 2013

The sacred life must return to our world now and sacredness begins inside. 

The Spirit Behind

04 March 2013

Truth?… only say it and you commit murder. But the spirit behind the word… that can never die. It is the same with human beings.

Find that you are Everything

25 February 2013

To find yourself, start today, begin now! Breathe and wait, be gentle with yourself, do not hurry, you have all the time in the world. Fall outside of time and meet existence in eternity, then you find that you are everything. Lack was merely your way of avoiding the truth and the truth sets you free.

Walk the Path of Love

18 February 2013

Perhaps a day will come when you meet someone who also participates in life, rather than lack. When you meet they appear as yourself and you can walk the path of love together.

Dependency and Love

11 February 2013

Dependency and love are mutually exclusive. In our society today one of the signs of madness is that we think we can want, need and be dependent on someone we love, that we can fill our lack, our inner sense of deficiency, with someone else who themself feels inwardly deficient. You cannot do it because it cannot be done. No one – wives, husbands, lovers, children – can fill your inner emptiness; neither money, status, material belongings or distractions of any kind. In fact it is these distractions – including seeking what you need in the other – that compound the problem!

Life is Good

04 February 2013

We know in our wisdom that life is somehow fundamentally good. And it is; even the worst events turn out to reveal some beauty of soul and spirit in both individual and collective humanity.

Be with the Unknown

28 January 2013

Cultivate an inner attitude of acceptance so that you meet events in openness, receptivity and an underlying wisdom which receives the mystery of life. Expand your ability to be with the unknown, with uncertainty, to not have to prescribe and anticipate life events constantly.

Compassion in Action

21 January 2013

A community of human souls intent on attaining inner freedom, practicing compassion and responding to spiritual and divine longing is an appropriate and direct response to the demands of the present time. Be proud of your inner work in whatever discipline or practice you have adopted or practice it, be tolerant of other’s beliefs, cooperate with others rather than stand alone in your egoity and, above all, practice compassion in action to all, without discrimination.

Knowledge and Wisdom

14 January 2013

Wisdom comes from experience; knowledge comes from thinking.

Loving Relationships and the Divine

07 January 2013

If you are fortunate enough to have a loving relationship and a life companion alongside you, you look with the eyes of the Divine upon him or her and you celebrate your partner, along with all the other gifts of this divine world. Passing through the spiritual and transcendent realms of truth and reality, you turn your face to God, to the Divine, together.

The Grace of a Life Well-lived

31 December 2012

Accept the grace of old age, the wisdom of life experience and the generosity of existence, as a being who gives back and serves in teaching the young (increasingly everybody else!) through loving acceptance, compassion and empathy, through generosity and demonstrating the power of grace—the grace of a life well-lived and a life that continues to flourish and unfold intelligently with feeling, engagement and loving kindness, a life that naturally and beautifully has led to a deepening spiritual threshold... to truly communicate, I don't think that spirituality should be any different to cooking or medicine or politics. Within these spheres of endeavor, if you are as confused as people seem to be in the spiritual sphere, we would be speaking nonsense with devastating consequences.

The Responsibility of Forgiveness

24 December 2012

Forgiveness comes about in its own time. Please make a place for it in your inner garden. Prepare the ground, welcome it when it arrives and be ready for the great responsibility it brings.

Releasing Our Potential

17 December 2012

The inner journey liberates, fulfills, and releases our potential into the world. Denial and repression of our shadow and inner darkness result in outward projections of prejudice and evil into the world.

The Heart Can See

10 December 2012

What is unconscious or invisible to the eye is the fact that most of us are spending all of our time holding up the structure of the ego, without realizing that the heart can see exactly what is happening.

People Caring

03 December 2012

People used to talk to each other and perhaps they were effective, because people used to simply care about each other. What if professionalization, which is only a phenomenon of the last one to two hundred years, has taken that away from people?

World Transformation

26 November 2012

If we human beings were to look seriously inside, as a collective act, and make a sincere commitment to a new intention to live harmoniously, intelligently and joyfully together the world would be transformed. But first we must understand the relationship between the inner and outer worlds.

Only One Way

19 November 2012

Inner work corresponds with outer life in amplifying and reflecting the fact that one way is right, while a multitude of wrong ways exist. Is it any wonder that so many are lost and seeking guidance?

Your Eternal Nature

12 November 2012

We are living in a time of profound transformation, but transformation does not occur in time. Spiritual transformation does not occur in time. We transform in eternity out of our eternal nature. No explanation for this exists, because the time-bound mind is created from our thinking mind and the mind of thought is enslaved to the past, memory of past hurts, experiences, fixedness, divisiveness and separation. Our liberation is predicated on our transformation, which is never conscious, but always emerging from that borderline of conscious and unconscious, inner and outer, human and spiritual worlds.

Radical Insight

05 November 2012

Self-awareness is the principle tool of psychological inquiry. To be free of the limitations of personality and character we must rise to the challenge of being human, to be all we are and all we can be. It is a process of radical insight.

Spiritual Information

29 October 2012

Today we have a Tower of Babel situation; just look around at the vast array of spiritual teachers, religious traditions, new and ancient spiritual philosophies which are sometimes confused, vague or obtuse, but always confusing. If we are to truly communicate, I don't think that spirituality should be any different to cooking or medicine or politics. Within these spheres of endeavor, if you are as confused as people seem to be in the spiritual sphere, we would be speaking nonsense with devastating consequences.

Sexuality, Hysteria and Devotion

22 October 2012

Sexuality should be neither repressed, nor encouraged as a substitute for spirituality. Relating and real relationship without separation and divisiveness is the basis for effective and authentic spiritual life, not relationships in themselves – sexual, emotional, dependent or otherwise. The sexual axis and devotional-hysterical response to another person is the result of over-intensity of the heart, or the fourth chakra response, when it is out of balance with the rest of the bodily energy system. Through leading a balanced life in support of serious spiritual practices and discipline, and right breath practice, this, like other relative experiences, can be “seen through” by the serious spiritual student. In fact all experiences, phenomena, relationships and material body-emotional based life can be “seen through” while living an intelligent spiritual practice.

Misguidance of the Ego

15 October 2012

The absurd claim that spiritual enlightenment grows from your individual personality is the misguidance of your ego’s resistance to its own demise.

Engage Profoundly Spiritually

08 October 2012

We have to learn; we have to study, we must be released from our ignorance through allowing our minds to expand, our hearts to open…and if none of these activities work write poetry, paint pictures, make music or dance! If you engage with them profoundly, spiritually, that will be enough!

Un-born, Un-happening, and Un-dying!

01 October 2012

In witnessing, meditation, or authentic awareness you discover that you are a reflection of consciousness in individual form...YOU! When you reside and stabilize in awareness, much the same as you were previously centered in change, so caught up changing, changing, changing that you are dizzy from it, you at last see the obvious: everything in this world is not only changing; it is dying before your eyes. But You are not, as awareness you are Un-born, Un-happening, and Un-dying!

Gifts of Love

24 September 2012

To live humbly and simply without assumptions or expectations is the spiritual key to happiness. When we can truly do this (and all you have to do is stop doing what you are doing now to inhibit this!) blessings and treasures shower upon us, our lives and our relationship in gifts of love.

Division

17 September 2012

Separating ourselves from others creates division.

Forgiving

10 September 2012

Not forgiving hurts you the most.

Form and Consciousness

03 September 2012

Consciousness does not end with the death of form.

The Deep Sadness of Creation

27 August 2012

In inner work, sooner or later, you move through the last resistances, shed the last attachments to personality, lose the last struggles and fights and, when the dust has settled, you laugh long and hard. But just before that moment you may experience the deep sadness of creation.

The Path of Relationship

20 August 2012

Love relationships require self-loyalty, relinquishing power and embracing suffering. Early conditioning and formative relationships define us in reactive relationships. All our relationships with others will refer us back to this need until we are ready to do the work of giving acceptance, forgiveness and compassion to ourselves. Where does the path of relationship lead?

The Final Stages of Live

13 August 2012

Just as we grew out of our childhood toys in earlier life, in our later middle years, if we are open to it, lose interest in the exciting and enticing rewards of adulthood. We open the inner eye, listen with inner ears, touch ourselves deep within. For this is the call to the final stages of a lifetime.

Seeing Things As They Are

06 August 2012

When we can see things as they are, we have let go of our judgments and our models. As we free the world from our prejudices, we ourselves are liberated. Life is beyond separation. We can notice how we need the world to conform to our models, witness the tourniquet of our belief systems, and the stranglehold of our models.

The Ego-Based Realm

30 July 2012

This ego-based realm is the shadow land, the domain of terrifying, attractive chimeras, the world of grey shapes and indistinct forms passing endlessly away...into the fog.

The Individual and The Spiritual

23 July 2012

The spiritually inclined person or student of life who is interested in the full manifestation of human potential must take into account very seriously that self-discovery, personal therapy or the fulfillment of the individual self must be the overriding concern, practice and endeavor that precede the spiritual, single-focused effort. Otherwise spirituality must be considered solely in egocentric terms and you cannot conceive the absolute in relative terms anymore than you can light a fire underwater or fly on the ground.

Transcending Character

16 July 2012

The personal impression of character, personality and ego must be transcended if we are to progress spiritually.

Hidden in Full View

09 July 2012

Isn’t it remarkable that, rather than not speaking of spirituality and enlightenment, people speak of it all the time. Isn’t the best way to hide something to display it openly?

Self-Awareness

02 July 2012

The last person to be let in to the theater of self is you. After all you never paid to watch.

Self-Responsibility

25 June 2012

"I am sorry" is the corollary of "It's your fault" and neither is true.

Inner Wisdom

18 June 2012

What do you want to know that you don’t know already?

Ultimately Alone

11 June 2012

So I would say that you are ultimately alone. Therapy may well address issues of loneliness, but you cannot take away aloneness.

The Spiritual Life

04 June 2012

Do not settle for less than everything – the transformation of the human heart and the courage to demand and bear the responsibility of leading a spiritual life in the world.

Freedom

28 May 2012

It is only when I become free of myself that I am free to be myself.

Source

21 May 2012

We have created depression in our lives because we no longer feel connected to our source.

The Lake

14 May 2012

When the lake of reflection stills, I AM appears.

Love Another

07 May 2012

As I love another so will I be able to love myself.

Non-Separation

30 April 2012

When you are born you begin the journey into separation and division. Through each person's own inner work and awareness practice a sense of the wisdom of enlightened non-separation arises.

Death of Form

23 April 2012

Consciousness does not end with the death of form.

Heal

16 April 2012

What we have suffered demands the attention of an open heart and making our hearts available to another’s suffering brings healing to ourselves and the other.

Personality

09 April 2012

Personality is a thin layer around the soul. It is how we appear, to ourselves as well as others, not who we are.

Spiritual Practice

02 April 2012

Spiritual practice should be enjoyable; we should want to practice and love to do so. Practice is done for its own sake, never for the attainment of a goal. For spiritual practice simply reflects who we really are.

No Journey

26 March 2012

The spiritual journey is not a journey at all. There cannot be a journey to where we already are.

All is Our Real Nature

19 March 2012

The goal of spiritual practice is like no other goal and the destination of the spiritual journey is like no other destination. Spiritual practice is not the way to our real nature; it is our real nature.

Suffering

12 March 2012

A person who is empty enough can empathize with us, resonate with us: someone who has enough inner space to receive us can bear the presence of suffering alongside us.

Creating Worlds

05 March 2012

You are creating your world and I am creating my world. We don’t see things as they are; we see things as we are.

Suffering Is a Gift

27 February 2012

Human suffering can turn into divine teaching. So we get gifted people working with people who are suffering, usually because they themselves have had those experiences, or some related experiences, which cause empathy and compassion to arise in them.

Mind

20 February 2012

Remember, only the mind can make you mad. We need to be out of mind sometimes.

Centering

13 February 2012

Each of us is at the centre of the universe. On a personal level we live our lives within a spinning-top of movement and activity. We are attracted to the drama and excitement of life and, at the same time, impoverished by our reluctance to centre ourselves. The challenge is to locate and become centered in the still centre of ourselves around which the top is spinning.

Experience

06 February 2012

The essence of real experience is spontaneity and surrender.

Free

29 January 2012

Enlightening understanding should always be received lightly. It is not burdensome, it implies no duty or responsibility - we are, and have always been, utterly free.

The Journey

23 January 2012

We need not dwell on the road once we have reached our destination.

Consciousness

16 January 2012

When we look within what we find is not separation, but simply consciousness manifesting as presence.

Present

09 January 2012

The future and the past do not really exist; they are merely projections of the present.

Experience

02 January 2012

To enter fully into the present we must go beyond reason and belief to direct experience unhindered by thought.

Divine Self

26 December 2011

Just as we, as individual, small separate selves have been concealing our divinity; our divinity has been concealing itself in our small separate selves.

Awakening

19 December 2011

Spiritual awakening results from a shock which disturbs our normal points of reference. True spiritual teaching is a physical, emotional and mental revolution, an upheaval, an earthquake, a radical disturbance to the complacent organization of our small sense of self.

True Nature

12 December 2011

Our true nature is unspoken because it is unspeakable, unwritten because it is un-writeable; we can only say what it is not.

Inner Work and Spiritual Practice

05 December 2011

Inner work and therapy are for those of us who want to know, who want to feel and understand, who are unwilling to settle for the shallowness and avoidance of a superficial purely material, conventional life. Spiritual practice is for those of us who have had, or who seek, an experience of ‘otherness’, for whom such experiences are our most precious and who know, or suspect, that there is something other than the world of changing appearances.

Living Life

28 November 2011

One miracle we can all aspire to remains elusive because it is so obvious. It is the miracle of living a life and it challenges us to be authentic and act from the center of our beings.

Separation

21 November 2011

Although we masquerade as separate beings, when we need to separate, we find it hard to say goodbye.

False Self

14 November 2011

We have built the fiction of our small sense of self on the formative events of a cosmic moment.

Psycho-Spiritual Therapy: An Introductin

07 November 2011

Psycho-spiritual psychotherapy has been extraordinarily open in amassing knowledge and wisdom. Drawing on the insights into neurosis, character and the unconscious of Western psychology and the wisdom of the East - Vedanta, Buddhism, Sufism, Taoism - and making a deep bow to the mystics of all traditions - to the shamans, mentors, seers, sages, prophets as well as many contemporary spiritual teachers, psycho-spiritual psychotherapy has assimilated these insights into a profound understanding of human development and created a powerful way to heal.

Authentic

31 October 2011

Authenticity is the bridge between our personal egoic existence and our true nature.

How Do You Become Spiritual?

17 October 2011

How do you become spiritual? Start with a little discipline. Feel the world, cultivate awareness, keep your eyes open wide and your heart open wider, allow yourself to be affected by the world, touched by people and events, be present and breathe - that is a good start.

Humanity/Spirituality

10 October 2011

We are suffering from an inner mental-emotional mix of guilt, resentment, anxiety and over-active minds. The way to heal these conditions is through healing our humanity, not striving for our divinity. Spiritual practice does not lead to spiritual enlightenment while our minds and hearts are filled with repressed emotions and hidden resentment.

Suffering

03 October 2011

While the plight of people living in extreme conditions due to war, famine and tyranny calls for the heart’s attention, so too do the causes of suffering in the materially decadent West where suffering is turned inwards and manifested psychologically.

Love

26 September 2011

When we seek love outside ourselves, we have difficulty loving.

Love

19 September 2011

Love evades all our seeking because we can never possess or define it. It eludes discovery or understanding because it is so close to us we may never make an object of it or see it clearly.

Awakening

12 September 2011

Spiritual awakening results from a shock which disturbs our normal points of reference. True spiritual teaching is a physical, emotional and mental revolution, an upheaval, an earthquake, a radical disturbance to the complacent organization of our small sense of self.

Cosmic

05 September 2011

From our first gulp to our last gasp of breath our individual life shimmers like a shard of sunlight for a cosmic moment before it is gone forever.

Human Development

29 August 2011

The sequence of trust, through betrayal to forgiveness and, finally, transcendence mirrors the growth of human development through infancy, adulthood, old age and death. Childhood is a time of great trust and innocence. In adulthood we ‘betray’ this original innocence by becoming more worldly and losing our innate sense of openness and trust. In old age there is the potential to soften and find forgiveness for ourselves, for others and for life and the suffering and joy it has given us.

Same

22 August 2011

People with disabilities are made to feel different, not because they are different, but because we can’t bear to think that we are the same as them.

Community

15 August 2011

Our sense of community begins with the community of selves within.

Transformation

08 August 2011

When we share our ‘human wealth’ - the heart-felt qualities of expansiveness, generosity and kindness - transformation takes place.

Connect

01 August 2011

We are all interconnected, so much so that no feeling, thought or action is exclusively our own.

Changing Truth

25 July 2011

The truth is never fixed; it is always changing.

Compassion

18 July 2011

True compassion is only present when we are not.

Purpose

11 July 2011

Bliss, or purpose, gives our lives meaning, not by altering the conditions of our lives, but by being with those conditions exactly as they are

Purpose

04 July 2011

Purpose requires surrender. We have to free ourselves from other people’s aspirations and let go of our ideas of what we think we should be doing. Many of us spend a lifetime trying to fulfill the expectations of someone else, rather than living our own lives.

Inner and Outer

27 June 2011

Our inner work reflects into the world. We feel the suffering of others and resonate with their life predicaments. No longer self-obsessed, the fruits of our inner work fill us and overflow into the world.

Spiritual Path

20 June 2011

Today many people experience a call to follow a spiritual path in the world, rather than outside it. For many the spiritual journey is no longer formally prescribed by an outward authority or pursued in an institutionalized setting; each individual discovers it for his or her self. It is an expression of the emerging intimacy between our humanity and our divinity.

Attachment

13 June 2011

The most potent attachment of all is the attachment to non-attachment.

Inner Guidance

06 June 2011

The test for the authenticity of inner guidance and wisdom is that it is totally present, without memory or anticipation.

Hidden Gift

31 May 2011

The greatest of life’s gifts lies hidden in what we most reject and want to change about ourselves.

Forgive

24 May 2011

We cannot let go of the past unless we learn how to forgive.

Attention

16 May 2011

Truth is in a leaf, a sunset, a smile, a word. We have to be in the right place within to appreciate it; the truth doesn’t come and go; it is only the quality of our attention that is inconsistent.

Change

09 May 2011

When we change, we only notice that we have changed after the event: the change itself happens without our knowing.

Mind and Heart

02 May 2011

The mind is always defeated until it is brought into the service of the heart.

 

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